A few weekends ago we attended "A Weekend to Remember" by Family Life and it was wonderful! Highly encourage any engaged or married couple to attend.
They started the retreat by talking about what's gone wrong in marriage. Understanding that "every marriage is either moving toward oneness or drifting toward isolation." Dennis Rainey says “Oneness in marriage involves complete unity with each other. It’s more than a mere mingling of two humans-it’s a tender merger of body, soul, and spirit."
-Oneness: unity of thought, feeling, belief, aim, etc.; agreement; concord, a strong feeling of closeness or affinity.
-Isolation: detachment, separation, aloneness, remoteness
When we understand what threatens our marriage, it can help us better achieve oneness. These are all from the curriculum we received that weekend, too good not to share!
5 Threats to Marriage
Threat #1: Difficult adjustments
Result: When couples fail to make necessary adjustments to move toward oneness, the result is isolation.
Threat #2) Our cultures pattern
Result: When couples follow our culture's pattern for marriage, the result is isolation.
Threat #3: Inevitable difficulties
Result: When couples fail to grasp God's perspective on difficulties and problems, the result is isolation.
Threat #4: Extramarital affairs
Result: When couples escape to extramarital affairs, the result is isolation.
Threat #5: Selfishness
Result: When husbands and wives are selfish, the result is isolation.
Over the next 5 weeks, we can look at each threat more in depth and pursue health and healing in our marriages together!
Have you ever thought about any of these before?
Are you pursuing oneness or isolation in your marriage?
What can you do differently to stop, repent, and pursue oneness?
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh." (Genesis 2:24)
"So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)